To become a good adult, teens need to spend time figuring out goals to get there. Many students have goals for school like having top grades but this is not enough. They need to have goals for who they will become too.
When I was a teenager, my goal was to get very good grades to get to university. I studied a lot and got good grades. I went to university and graduated with my degree in Geography. But I didn’t have goals to my person. What kind of person did I want to be when I was older? Did I want to be happy, did I want to have children? I did not really know.
To help teenagers find out their goals, you need to talk to them and make the goals shorter. It is not fair to ask someone who is 14 what kind of person they want to be at 20. That is too many years difference and they change so much in that time. The best thing to do is ask your teenagers questions like this:
- who do you look up to as an adult?
- what kind of person are they?
- what do you like about them?
- what do you not like about them?
- if you could change one thing about who you are, what would it be?
- how long do you think it might take to change that one thing? (day, week, month, year)
- what sort of things would you do to change that?
- how will you know that you have changed?
These questions are good at helping your teenager find out who they want to be when they get older. These questions should be asked 6 months at a time so they have time to change.
Teens are always changing and they need some help in figuring out what they want. You can help them to set those goals. Do not do the work for them. Their goals they have to get by themselves. And it should be their goals. Not the ones you want them to make. You cannot ask them to set goals like learning to take out the garbage without being asked. These exercise is here to help them. As a good parent, you need to help them get better in what they want to work on. This will be better for you too.
For me, I ended up working at Hamilton Carpet Cleaning after my university. Even though I had a goal to work, I needed to learn to be a better worker. If I had worked at setting goals when I was teenager, I perhaps have a better job than now. I am learning how to become a better worker and change myself. Now my goals are as an adult. Better I had learned as a teenager.